
‘Feel Like a Stranger’ was released on the Grateful Dead’s 1980 eleventh studio album Go to Heaven, and it was written by Bob Weir and John Perry Barlow. This was the band’ first album without keyboardist Keith Godchaux and vocalist Donna Godchaux who were both replaced by Brent Mydland. Bob Weir and John Barlow were both born in October of 1947, just a couple of weeks apart. John Perry Barlow was born on October 3, 1947, and he died on February 7, 2018, at the age of 70. John is best known as a poet, rancher, and long-time lyricist for the Grateful Dead. He also co-founded the Electronic Frontier Foundation (The leading nonprofit defending digital privacy, free speech, and innovation) and he wrote the manifesto “A Declaration of the Independence of Cyberspace”, a paper on the incompatibility of current governments with the rapidly growing Internet, which asserted that traditional nation-states had no moral right or sovereignty to rule over the digital world. Bob Weir was born on October 16, 1947, died on January 10, 2026, at the age of 78. Bob was a founding member, rhythm guitarist, and singer for the Grateful Dead. He formed a prolific, decades-long songwriting partnership with Barlow after meeting him in high school.
I read ‘Feel Like a Stranger’ explores the feeling of being on stage or in a familiar crowd yet suddenly feeling like an outsider in the chaos and thrill of a Dead show, but I think there is a lot more to this song, as it seem like there is a sexual tension building up between the singer or possibly a person at the concert and a woman in the audience. The lyrics point to these two strangers meeting at a concert while they are both enjoying this exciting, relaxed environment, they are trying to connect or hook up with each other. They both like the same music and they want to socialize as they are standing or sitting or dancing right next to each other. This song became a beloved, danceable staple of the band’s live shows that frequently served as a powerful show-opener to allow for extended jamming. When this song opened up a concert, Deadheads knew they could count on things getting strange. The Grateful Dead had a very different sound with Brendt Midland, which the newer fans thought were their best years, and others didn’t enjoy the heavier synthesizer sounds, but some older Deadheads initially had a hard time adjusting to Keith Godchaux taking over keyboard from Ron “Pigpen” McKernan. The Grateful Dead went through distinct musical eras, and these shifts frequently coincided with a change in their keyboard players. Because the keyboard role was vital to their improvisational sound, bringing in a new musician radically altered the band’s dynamics and style.
Bob Weir and John Perry Barlow met in the mid-1960s as teenagers while attending the Fountain Valley School, a co-educational college preparatory high school that was located in in Colorado Springs, Colorado that catered for “difficult” children as a day school and a boarding school. Weir attended from 1962 to 1963, but he was asked to leave after one year due to his “unrestrained exuberance”. Barlow did graduate in 1965, and he went on to earn a degree in comparative religion from Wesleyan University in 1969. Weir returned to the campus for his 50th class reunion in May 2015, and the school officially awarded him an honorary diploma to commemorate the occasion. The two bonded quickly and became lifelong best friends. Bob Weir was expelled or asked to leave almost every school he attended before he went to Fountain Valley School. His struggles were primarily due to undiagnosed dyslexia and a rebellious, mischievous streak. In 1971, Weir brought Barlow on to write lyrics for the band, resulting in a legendary 18-year songwriting partnership that produced iconic songs like ‘Black-Throated Wind’, ‘Cassidy’, ‘Estimated Prophet’, ‘Looks Like Rain’, and ‘The Music Never Stopped’.
‘Feel Like a Stranger’ has some interesting lyrics and this song was inspired after Bob Weir visited a Marin County singles bar featuring a house band led by a pre-fame Huey Lewis. Bob Weir felt like a stranger having this slightly alienated feeling of locking eyes with someone across a crowded room, anticipating a chaotic night, and navigating the strange boundary between connection and unfamiliarity. Weir was literally looking at a stranger across the room, while also feeling like a stranger being disconnected, alienated, and deeply paranoid. The lyrics evoke the thrill of the chase with a sense of consequence, where sneaking away with this person “feels just like running a red light”, bringing an immediate sense of anxiety and danger. Grateful Dead concerts earned a reputation as places where “it’s gonna get stranger” because of the unpredictable, psychedelic subculture surrounding the band. Weir and Barlow argued over the lyrics in this song because Weir felt Barlow was adding overly intellectual concepts to a straightforward rock tune. Weir wanted the song to be a gritty, early-1980s meditation on casual sex, but this songwriting session grew incredibly tense and Barlow snapped and said, “If there’s one literate man left in America, I’m writing for him.” Weir was offended, so he bolted and locked himself in a bathroom refusing to back down. Barlow chased him and literally kicked his way through the bathroom door, leading to a brief scuffle that broke out in the hallway, but they did eventually resolve their issues.
Inside you’re burning
I can see clear through
Your eyes tell more than you mean them to
Lit up and flashing
Like the reds and blues
Out there on the neon avenue
But I feel like a stranger
Feel like a stranger
Well the music’s thundering
We’re restless and hot
You keep firing glances across the room
And I can’t stop wondering
Just what you got
Get the feeling I’m gonna find out real soon
Still I feel like a stranger
Feel like a stranger
Well you know it’s gonna get stranger
So let’s get on with the show
Yes and the wheel
Gets smoking round midnight
You shoot me a look that said let’s go
Yes and it feels
Just like running a red light
There ain’t no point in looking behind us, no
But I feel like a stranger
Feel like a stranger
You know it keeps getting stranger and stranger
If it’s love then how would I know?
Yes and it’s gonna get stranger
Some things you just know
If this were love then how would I know
(Feel like a stranger)
(Feel like a stranger)
Feel like a stranger
(Feel like a stranger)
It’s gonna be a long hot crazy night
It’s gonna be a long long crazy crazy night
Yeah crazy night
Silky silky, crazy crazy night
Written for Song Lyric Sunday where the theme is to find a song that was written or performed by someone who was bo9rn in October.







