W Is For Whiners

I am writing for the April A to Z challenge under the Category of Other and Miscellaneous and my Theme is Negative personalities and what’s more important is that today W is for whiners.  Nobody likes a Whiner.  Laugh the world laughs with you, however if you whine, you will whine alone.  The word whiner has nothing to do with wine or weiners for that matter, however a person might whine about their wine being too dry, or whine about their weiner being over cooked. Wouldn’t it be great if we could all drink our wine and eat our weiners without whining?  A whiner is a person who habitually complains, expresses disappointment, or grumbles, nags, snivels, or shows their unhappiness about issues.  The whiner is a crab, and they are crotchety and cantankerous, they find faults, they grouch, grump and mutterer in a self-pitying way.

The whiner won’t stop complaining about minor discomforts or perceived problems, and they seem to get mad when they hear other people complain about them.  This type of person usually pays more attention to how other people make them feel, than to what these other people are actually saying.  Whiners seem to bitch about anything and everything and they never have anything good to say, because they want everyone to focus their attention on them.  Whiners feel like the whole world is treating them unfairly and they always make a mountain out of a mole hill, no matter how minor the annoyance is. They have high standards, and no one is ever able to measures up to what they desire.  Since misery loves company, they want to bring all of their problems to you.  If you offer a solution to them for their problem, it will never be good enough for them and their whining will just escalate.  The water never flows under the bridge for a whiner and they don’t have it in them to let sleeping dogs lie, or just let it be.

Out Of Sight Out Of Mind

This proverb states that people soon forget others that are no longer visible or present.  As life goes on your friends and your enemies that are not around where you can see them will eventually disappear.  When you are not thinking about someone, they are living their own life and you are living yours, so you are no longer thinking about those people.  That which cannot be seen will not be noticeable and thus it will be forgotten.  If a problem happens in Syria or some other remote place far away from our ordinary lives they can be out of sight, and out of mind for many people, and if you don’t see it, it shouldn’t bother you.  People will eventually get over being insulted, or injured, and even that person that they hated, as time is supposed to heal all wounds, however it is also said that absence makes the heart grow fonder.

People won’t desire things that they don’t see, so if you don’t want your kids to have any candy, you better hide it!  Give the people what they want and they’ll come is a phrase that is attributed to the actor, singer, songwriter, and film producer George Jessel, who was said to have been passing by a funeral home where a celebrity was laid out and the crowd was four-deep waiting to file by for a last glimpse.  He said, “You see, you give the people what they want and they’ll come.”  Noah asked God where he would get all the animals for the ark and the answer was, “Build it and they will come”, and this Bible verse is said to have inspired Dane Malanoski the Author of the book “Field of dreams”.

Written for Linda G. Hill Life in progress One-Liner Wednesday – April 25 prompt.

V Is For Vindictive

I am writing for the April A to Z challenge under the Category of Other and Miscellaneous and my Theme is Negative personalities and what’s more important is that today V is for vindictive.  Vindictive people have or show a strong or unreasoning desire for revenge. Overly sensitive people have a tendency to overreact and hold grudges, but if they don’t react to these feelings and try to get back at someone, then they are not being vindictive.  Being vindictive is wrong, but having vindictive feelings or the desire to get even with another for a wrong or injury that they caused you is just being human. Being vengeful, and actually seeking vengeance by instituting retaliating actions does not always work out for the best.  There is a famous saying, “before seeking revenge, first dig two graves.”  When you seek vengeance, you hurt yourself as well, if not more.  You are not going to feel good about hurting someone regardless if it is warranted or not. Your anger toward this person will only increase if you preoccupy yourself with revenge.

A vindictive person is spiteful and they will want to cause severe harm and they will display no remorse, because they are trying to ruin someone’s life.  They will toy with someone until they think this person thinks that they have gone mad.  They will try to discover their enemy’s darkest secrets so they can display them for the whole world to see.  They will seek out that irreplaceable treasure that someone has so they can destroy it in front of their enemy.  Nothing will prevent them from acting like the animal that they are.   Vindictive people often say, “Revenge is a dish best served cold”, meaning that vengeance is more satisfying when it is exacted some time after the harm that instigated it.

People developed feelings as survival instincts and when someone cheats on you or betrays you, your normal instinct is to get even.  All people are inclined to react when they encounter certain feelings such as grief and when a person feels that they have been wronged, it is not always easy to cancel out those feelings.  It is not always easy to stand up to a bully, but if you don’t strike or answer back, this bullying will probably never cease.  Loosing self control and lashing out in anger, will likely cause you regret, because without knowing yourself and recognizing your feelings the battle will never end. In order for us to flourish as human beings, we need to help other people and stop being vindictive.

Both Aristotle and Aquinas held that there are three species of wrath, those being “the acuti who are the actively wrathful, the amari are those who are sullen because they keep their wrath locked within themselves and the difficles, the vindictive.”  Alexander Hamilton wrote that, “Men are ambitious, vindictive, and rapacious”, in an attempt to defend the union of the thirteen independent states into a single country under a national government. Hamilton argued that if the states were to be independent and completely sovereign, they would inevitably go to war with one another, just as all other neighboring countries throughout the world have done throughout history.

The Bible says, “Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord.”  Dante’s Fifth Circle of Hell is where the wrathful and sullen are punished for their sins.  Dante and Virgil see the wrathful fighting each other on the surface of the river Styx and the sullen are gurgling beneath the surface of the water. Wrath and sullenness are basically two forms of the same sin that being anger, while wrath is anger that is expressed and anger that is repressed is sullenness.

In the story of mankind’s fall from Eden, wrath is the seventh deadly sin that John Milton wrote about in his epic poem Paradise Lost.  Satan’s wants revenge for getting kicked out of heaven, but this backfires, as all his malice does exactly the opposite of what he wanted because it ended up bringing forth Infinite goodness.  “And enraged might see how all his malice served but to bring forth Infinite goodness, grace, and mercy shown on Man by him seduced, but on himself Treble confusion, wrath and vengeance poured.” “Of anger shall remain, but peace assured And reconcilement: wrath shall be no more.”

Till The Cows Come Home

It was already too late to make any more hay bale decorations, as the judge would be here soon to bestow the hay decorating prize.  The cows will also be wandering up this way as soon as we open up this field for them to graze.  Cows are notoriously languid creatures that usually go along at their own unhurried pace.  The cattle that are let out to pasture are usually expected to return to the barn for their milking the next morning, as otherwise their udders will feel like they are bursting with milk, which would make them very uncomfortable.

100 Words

Written for Randomness Inked Scribbling the Unspoken “Let it Bleed” Weekly Prompt Challenge 15 and Princess Joy Flash Fiction for Aspiring Writers 164th Challenge.

U Is For Ungrateful

I am writing for the April A to Z challenge under the Category of Other and Miscellaneous and my Theme is Negative personalities and what’s more important is that today U is for ungrateful.  An ungrateful person will not show gratitude. They are unappreciative, unthankful, and ungracious about the good things that someone might have done for them.  Ungrateful people go around thinking about what they don’t have and the never reflect on what they do have, thus they are not able to see the real value of anything that has been provided to them.  The ungrateful person will not notice when something is done for them because most of them are pessimists, as they tend to see the worst aspect of things or believe that the worst will happen.  Some ungrateful people might suffer from affluenza, which a psychological condition that affects wealthy young people, who think that they are entitled to certain things.

When I was young, I had a wonderful Aunt, who always sent me money for Christmas and my birthday, but my parents never allowed me to actually get the money till I wrote back to my Aunt and thanked her for the gift.  Many parents are still children themselves and they have no clue how to raise children.  You need a license to drive a car, but any idiot can have a child!  When I was young, a popular saying was, “spare the rod and spoil the child”, meaning that if children are not physically punished when they do wrong, their personal development will suffer.  This is no longer the case, as disciplining an unruly brat with physical contact gets parents put in jail and their kids are taken away from them, so that child will grow accustomed to getting his own way and they will be ungrateful.

One Year Here

I am happy to be on WordPress and today is my anniversary.  I have 292 followers and this will be my 698 post.  I have received 4 blogger awards being, the Unique Blogger Award, the Awesome Blogger Award, the Liebster Award and the Sunshine Blogger Award.  I have participated in three month long blogging challenges being, the September Challenge, jusjojan and the April A to Z.  The year flew by fast and I will continue writing posts.

It seems that my readers like to learn more about me than they actually enjoy reading my posts, as my Home page has the most views that being 734.  Maybe I am looking at this the wrong way and the people that have viewed my Home page just feel that I don’t have anything of value to say and therefore they dismissed me.  Although my About page has 117 views and only three other of my posts have more than 100 views.  ‘Colder Than a Well Digger’s Ass’ has 524 views, ‘Sloopy Hang On’ has 377 and ‘A Paranormal Romance leads to BDSM Erotica’ has 121 views.  Overall 500 of my posts have 11 views or more, and I have gotten 12,436 views and 5,638 comments in this first year (although nearly half of those comments were made by me as responses).

I want to thank everyone for making me feel so welcomed here and I am happy to be a part of the WordPress community.  I hope my post was not too vague.

T Is For Truculent

I am writing for the April A to Z challenge under the Category of Other and Miscellaneous and my Theme is Negative personalities and what’s more important is that today T is for truculent.  A truculent person would be eager or quick to argue or get into a fight, and they would be aggressively defiant.  They could be antagonistic, argumentative, bad-tempered, belligerent, brutal, combative, confrontational, contentious, contrary, deadly, destructive, feisty, hostile, moody, obstreperous, ornery, pugnacious, quarrelsome, rebellious, self-assertive, surly and uncooperative.  The word truculent is derived from the Latin word ‘truculentus’, which means savage.

Achilles, Genghis Khan, Attila the Hun and Napoleon were all truculent.  Some people feel that the word truculent describes Trump to a ‘T’, because Donald Trump has done more damage than any of his predecessors and he will continue to do so until he provokes Armageddon!  His ideology is white supremacy, in all its truculent and sanctimonious power which shows clearly as he enjoys calling Mexican rapists.  Our truculent sovereign can’t stay away from Twitter because he feels a need to stir things up and spew his insults.  Trump is a cacafuego meaning he is a swaggering braggart and boaster and this makes him truculent.

Oops, I did it again, as this post is for tomorrow.