1.Do you have any family traditions?
My family had many traditions, and most were centered around holidays.  For Christmas, my parents would always wrap gag gifts for myself, my brother and sister to open and they would laugh when I opened new socks or new underwear when I was expecting it to be a present.  For Easter my mom would color eggs and they would hide them for us to find when we woke up.  For Thanksgiving one of us kids were always allowed to name the turkey.  I don’t have a family, but I keep up a tradition that my dad started.  He always made sure that my mom made spaghetti for the first Sunday of football season and I still make sure to do that.

2. With December on its way, have you ever been carol singing?
Nobody in their right mind would ever want to hear me sing.

3. Do you decorate your home for the Christmas holidays?
I got a lighted palm tree that I can put presents under, and I hang a wreath on the front door.

4. Do you enjoy the Christmas rush for preparations and shopping?
I only enjoy it when it is over.

Written for Di’s Share Your World.

New Religious Are on the Rise

Carl grew up being a Christian, but he never felt like he identified with that faith, although he still viewed religion as being a very important part in his life.  He tried being Jewish, but that was not working for him, so he switched to the Muslim religion, then he became a Buddhist and then he converted to being a Hindu.  Carl was conflicted, nothing gave him the satisfaction he was seeking until he ran into a man that was starting a new religious movement of Omnism, that combined all the beliefs of God together, so everybody’s God was the same.  Carl knew that there was an element of truth in every religion that he had practiced, but all of them were missing a key ingredient, which never allowed him to feel close to God.  He felt this message was so powerful that the light emanating from this religious unity should be able to illuminate the whole earth.  Carl was invited to the sacred temple where he was dressed in a red robe and told to stand before the Four Giant Heads which represented the living God on Earth.  Carl felt that he would finally be able to establish the relationship he was looking for by being in the vicinity of the great and powerful living God, but nothing happened.  He started praying and then something came to him, but it was not giving him the satisfaction he craved.  It was more like a déjà vu moment of Dorothy’s dog, Toto pulling back the curtain on the all-powerful Wizard of Oz revealing that he was a fake.  Once that curtain was pulled back, all his faith was gone.

Written for Fandango’s Flash Fiction Challenge #195.

Don’t Come Here Again

In the early 1970s, I went with a bunch of my friends to check out this house which was rumored to be haunted.  The story as I remember, involved an invalid who fell down an elevator shaft inside of the house and it was said that they would materialize as a ghost.  It was a three-story house set back into the woods off an isolated road.  Some stories said that Emma Swanson was pushed down the shaft by her mother’s lover and that they were never able to clean up the blood that was dripping down the shaft.  I am very skeptical, and I knew that these stories were all elaborations, and that people will see what they want to see, so if they go there expecting to see a ghost and they hear floorboards creaking, that will turn into spirits walking through the house.  Anyway, it sounded like a fun way to kill some time, so I parked my car a couple of blocks away and we all went to see the mysterious house.

It must have been a nice house at one time, but now it was abandoned and run down.  We saw a bunch of beer cans strewn all over the property, so many other kids had been to this house before us.  It was dark that night, which made it even more scary and the perfect night for seeing a ghost.  We heard that Emma was a thin, young woman with long dark hair in a wheelchair wearing a tattered white nightgown and there were stories about kids running out of the house screaming after she appeared to them.  Eddie was goofing around knocking on the walls to make it sound like there was a ghost in the house, but once we realized that it was him, we stopped reacting to his nonsense.  We saw the famous elevator shaft, but no dripping blood or ghost, so since there was absolutely nothing going on in this house, we got bored and left.

We walked back to my car, and then this older man shouted at us to stop.  He waved a gun at us and told us that he had the right to shoot all of us as he was the caretaker of the abandoned house.  I thought he must have been crazy, because who waves a gun at a bunch of innocent teens.  He said he wanted all of us to get into his car as he was going to drive us to the police station for trespassing and vandalism.  We didn’t destroy any property and we didn’t even think that trespassing in an abandoned hose should be a crime.  I tried to talk him into putting the gun down, by saying that we would do anything he asked us to do.  I let him know that we didn’t damage anything and that we were only there for around 20 minutes.  I also told him that if he didn’t want anyone trespassing on this property, that he should put up a sign to alert people of this.  He said that every time he puts up a “No Trespassing” sign, that somebody always rips it down.  I told him that we got his warning and that he would never see us again around that abandoned house.  A couple weeks later he put up a big neon sign that nobody could miss.

Written for Sadje at Keep It Alive What Do You See #162.

Make Love Not War

Making sure that I answer comments is very important to me, because I care about the people who take their time to make comments on my posts.  I check my spam to see if any comments get lost there, because I crave the interaction that comments bring to my posts.  When I respond to comments, it almost guarantees that that the person who left them will come back to visit my blog again.  I want to build a good relationship in the blogging community and responding to comments is essential for doing this.  I try to respond positively to all the comments that I receive on my blog, but some of them are difficult to deal with.  If I write a post about a musical artist that you don’t care for, I prefer that you don’t comment, instead of saying something negative.  It is easy to pick fights and hard to get along, so I try to never leave any derogatory comments on other bloggers posts.  People are opinionated and they want to say what they want to say, but I wish they would focus their comments on my writing, instead letting me know how they feel.  If I get ridiculous comments on my blog, or comments that I think are in bad taste, I will delete them, but mostly I look forward to all the comments that I get.

Written for Sadje’s Sunday Poser #108, where she asks us, “How important it is to you to answer comments on your blog posts?”

No Matter How Long It Takes

Brian Holland, Lamont Dozier, and Eddie Holland who were collectively known as Holland-Dozier-Holland wrote ‘You Can’t Hurry Love’ which was a massive hit for The Supremes, reaching #1 on the Billboard Hot 100, and remaining on the chart for 13 weeks.  It was recorded on their ninth studio album The Supremes A’ Go-Go, which was released in 1966 and it became the first album by an all-female group to reach #1 on the Billboard 200 album chart.  Billboard named the song #19 on their list of 100 Greatest Girl Group Songs of All Time.  This single became the Supremes’ seventh number-one hit, and they reached the top of the charts 12 times.  The Supremes’ version of the song is honored by inclusion in the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame’s permanent collection of 500 Songs that Shaped Rock and Roll.  The album version features Diana Ross on lead vocals and has background vocals by Mary Wilson and Florence Ballard.  Instrumentation was provided by the Funk Brothers with Earl Van Dyke on piano, Robert White on guitar, James Jamerson playing bass guitar, Benny Benjamin on drums and Jack Ashford on tambourine.  Rolling Stone magazine ranked James Jamerson as “the Greatest Bassist of all Time” in 2020.

It can be sad for a young girl when she doesn’t have a boyfriend, especially when all her friends are going on dates, but love is not about instant gratification, so there is no need to rush things, especially when you are young.  Young girls tend to over-complicate issues because they are filled with hopes, dreams, and aspirations.  All of this makes them wish for love, but since love is a complicated emotion there are many factors that need to line up for this to happen.  They would first have to experience those wild feelings of lust, and then the excitement of attraction, before they would be able to reach the stage of attachment where couples grow bonds and feel connected.  When you are young, you want things and temptation is lurking everywhere.

In this song, a girl listens to her mother’s words of abstinence, telling her that she needs to wait, and that if she has patience, she will find that special someone one day.  She needs love to make her feel better, so her desire to score a serious boyfriend is always on her mind.  She wonders how many heartaches she will have to suffer, before she gets a man in her life.  Her loneliness is becoming unbearable, and she is growing more impatient every day.  She gets hope from that advice that her mother gives her, so she decides to wait, anticipating that one day she will have that soft voice talking to her at night and some tender arms holding her tight.

The song was influenced a 1950s gospel song titled ‘(You Can’t Hurry God) He’s Right on Time’, which was written by Dorothy Love Coates, and she performed it with the Gospel Harmonettes, an influential gospel singing group that was based out of Birmingham, AL.  Marlene Barrow filled in for Florence Ballard at several of the Supremes live shows in early 1966 when Florence was sick.  The Supremes achieved mainstream success during the mid-1960s, and they began as a quartet called The Primettes, which was a sister act to The Primes who later became The Temptations.  Florence Ballard was a year older than Diana Ross and Mary Wilson and she died of cardiac arrest at the age of 32, and we lost Mary Wilson last year.  These girls were all young either 20 or 21, when they had their first #1 hit in 1964, achieving success at a young age.

I need love, love to ease my mind
I need to find, find someone to call mine
But mama said you can’t hurry love
No you just have to wait
She said love don’t come easy
It’s a game of give and take
You can’t hurry love
No, you just have to wait
You gotta trust, give it time
No matter how long it takes
But how many heartaches must I stand
Before I find a love to let me live again
Right now the only thing that keeps me hanging on
When I feel my strength, yeah, it’s almost gone
I remember mama said

No, you just have to wait
She said love don’t come easy
It’s a game of give and take
How long must I wait? How much more can I take?
Before loneliness will ‘cause my heart, heart to break
No, I can’t bear to live my life alone
I grow impatient for a love to call my own
But when I feel that I, I can’t go on
These precious words keeps me hanging on
I remember mama said

No, you just have to wait
She said love don’t come easy
It’s a game of give and take

You can’t hurry love
No, you just have to wait
She said trust, give it time
No matter how long it takes (gotta wait)

No love, love don’t come easy
But I keep on waiting, anticipating for that
Soft voice to talk to me at night
For some tender arms to hold me tight
I keep waiting, I keep on waiting (give and take)
But it ain’t easy, it ain’t easy when mama said

You can’t hurry love
No, you just have to wait
She said trust, give it time
No matter how long it takes

You can’t hurry love
No, you just have to wait
She said love don’t come easy
It’s a game of give and take
You can’t hurry love
No, you just have to wait
Mama said just give it time

Written for Song Lyric Sunday where the theme is Motown music.


Berry Gordy Jr founded Motown Records on January 12, 1959, in downtown Detroit, aka Motor City and this was several months after he founded Tamla Records.  Motown became the largest Black-owned company in the United States in the 1960s and it ended up changing the culture in America by creating a voice for African American people so they could deliver their messages through music.  Motown saw the Smokey Robinson and the Miracles, the Temptations, Diana Ross and the Supremes, the Four Tops, the Jackson 5, Gladys Knight & the Pips, Stevie Wonder and Marvin Gaye who all ruled the music scene.  Motown produced 53 #1 songs when Berry Gordy owned and ran the business from 1959 to 1988 including ‘Endless Love’, ‘I Heard It Through the Grapevine’, ‘I’ll Be There’, ‘Baby Love’, ‘All Night Long (All Night)’, Upside Down, ‘I Just Called To Say I Love You’, ‘Ain’t No Mountain High Enough’. ‘War’, ‘Where Did Our Love Go’, ‘Stop! In the Name of Love’, ‘I Can’t Help Myself (Sugar Pie Honey Bunch)’, ‘Reach Out I’ll Be There’, ‘The Tears of a Clown’, ‘Come See About Me’, ‘I Hear A Symphony’, ‘You Can’t Hurry Love’, ‘You Keep Me Hangin’ On’, ‘Love Child’, ‘I Can’t Get Next To You’, ‘Just My Imagination (Running Away With Me)’. ‘Let’s Get It On’, ‘Three Times a Lady’, ‘My Guy’, ‘My Girl’, ‘Please Mr. Postman’, ‘(Love Is Like a) Heat Wave’, and 25 other songs that dominated the charts for more than a decade.  Hall of Fame songwriters Holland-Dozier-Holland composed 25 of those #1 hit singles and the talented Funk Brothers created the label’s distinctive sound.

Last week we had Name That Tune where the theme was to find songs with recognizable intros suggested by Clive from Take It Easy.  This week the theme is to find Motown songs.  Take some time to read the posts of other bloggers who respond to this music challenge, and even better, read as many of them as you can as you will probably find many enjoyable songs and it is quite possibly that you will learn a thing or two.  Share your music with others and post a video, try do some research and let everyone know something about the song that you post.  Tell everyone why you like the song, whether it was a hit, or what you think the song is about.  Show the lyrics, let’s all listen to our favorite songs and explore some new music.  Try to find a song that fits the theme, then write your post and create a pingback, or you can just place your link in the comments section.

• Try to use the prompt words or at least conform to a general theme, as you see it.  If the song you select does not meet the criteria, then please explain why you chose this song.
• It would be good if you could post the lyrics to the song of your choice, as this is helpful for the people that want to follow along with the music.
• Please try to include the songwriter(s) – it’s a good idea to give credit where credit is due. It would also be a good idea to give credit to the singer and the band associated with your song.
• Your post can be as long or as short as you want it to be, but please try not to include too many videos as that just makes it take longer to look at all of the other posts.
• Link to the YouTube video, or you can pull it into your post, so others can listen to the song.
• Ping back to this post or place your link in the comments section below.
• Read at least one other person’s blog, so we can all share new and fantastic music and create amazing new blogging friends in the process.
• Feel free to suggest future prompts.
• Have fun and enjoy the music.

This week I will be writing about The Supremes song ‘You Can’t Hurry Love’, and next week, I will be writing about the song ‘Love Will Tear Us Apart’ by Joy Division.  The upcoming prompts will be:
December 4, 2022 – Indie Rock or Indie Pop songs
December 11, 2022 – Power Pop songs
December 18, 2022 – Mersey Beat, or Mersey Sound or a band from Surrey or Liverpool will also work
December 25, 2022 – Punk songs

Goodnight Irene

Irene Cara died yesterday at her Florida home at the age of 63 and she will be missed.  She wrote and sang the iconic song ‘Flashdance…What a Feeling’ for the 1983 film Flashdance, which was selling the concept that women are able to have it all.  It was an offer cooked up to sell an image, a lifestyle about how any woman could rise to the top, making that happen with their passion.  The romantic drama dance film starred Jennifer Beals as a young dancer aiming to become a professional ballerina.  This girl is a dancer that is in control of her body, and when she dances, she feels that she is in control of her life.  Irene Cara won the 1983 Grammy for Best Pop Vocal Performance, Female, for her work on this song.  She collaborated with Keith Forsey on the lyrics and Giorgio Moroder composed the music.  Irene Cara told Forsey that she felt that the lyrics should describe the feeling of dance, and she gave him credit for coming up with the line that inspired the working title for the song, ‘Dancing for Your Life’.  This song was awarded the Oscar for Best Original Song.

First, when there’s nothing but a slow glowing dream
That your fear seems to hide deep inside your mind
All alone I have cried, silent tears full of pride
In a world made of steel, made of stone
Well, I hear the music close my eyes, feel the rhythm
Wrap around, take a hold of my heart
What a feeling, being’s believin’
I can have it all, now I’m dancing for my life
Take your passion and make it happen
Pictures come alive, you can dance right through your life
Now, I hear the music, close my eyes, I am rhythm
In a flash it takes hold of my heart
What a feeling, being’s believin’
I can have it all, now I’m dancing for my life
Take your passion and make it happen
Pictures come alive, now I’m dancing through my life
What a feeling
What a feeling
(I am music now)
Being’s believin’
(I am rhythm now)
Pictures come alive, you can dance right through your life
What a feeling
(I can really have it all)
What a feeling
(Pictures come alive when I call)
I can have it all
(I can really have it all)
Have it all
(Pictures come alive when I call)
Call, call, call, call, what a feeling
(I can have it all)
Being’s believin’
(Being’s believin’)
Take your passion, make it happen
(Make it happen)
What a feeling

Fashion Week

1.What are fish nets?
Sexually intriguing legwear that goes well with red fingernails and stilettos.

2. What is a teddy?
This is a garment that you put on by stepping into the leg holes and then pull it up to cover the top part of your body, although I have never worn one.

3. What is cross stitch?
This is used to create pictures of Elvis.

4. What is a basque?
It is like a bisque, but it is exposed to the warmth of the Sun, to become a more pleasurable soup.

5. What are daps?
This is a lot like dabbing, the gesture that was popular by kids a few years back, but here you lift your head and walk like an Egyptian.

6. What are culottes?
This is a garment that you can wear if you want to go commando.

7. What are pedal pushers?
This is for women that enjoy riding their bicycles and it is a cross between a poodle skirt and a capris.

8. What are trews?
It’s a fancy pants word.

9. What is a gym slip?
It is like a pinafore dress or a jumper dress, but it represents a form of innocence that only schoolgirls have.

10. What is a feather cut?
A look made famous by Farrah Fawcett.

Written for Di’s Fibbing Friday.

Black Friday

Everyone likes to save money and Black Friday deals keep getting better and better each year, but the good ones can be hard to snag. The flood of doorbuster deals are here now on almost anything that you want to buy. If you’re shopping for TVs and electronics, the deepest discounts will be on Black Friday. There are plenty of impressive savings for you to take advantage of and you can get everything you need to maximize your holiday shopping savings this year. I heard on the news that 166 million Americans are expected to shop this weekend and some of them may shop till they drop.

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For years America’s best sports tradition has been the rivalry between the Black Knights from West Point and the Midshipmen from Annapolis where the Army versus Navy football game was dubbed “America’s Game”.  Gone are the days when America’s service academies were national powerhouses, but the game will forever hold a place in American culture.  Generations ago, both Army and Navy were football powerhouses, combining for four national championships.  The term Black Friday wasn’t in common use nationwide before 1985, however it was known in Philadelphia, where the Army Navy game was hosted in the city 89 of the 122 contests.  This made sense, as Philadelphia was roughly equidistant from the two academies.  This game was historically played on the Saturday after Thanksgiving (a date on which most other major college football teams end their regular seasons).  In the early 1950s, this game attracted more than 100,000 people, filling John F. Kennedy Stadium…

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When man started establishing permanent settlements, they needed to develop way to dispose of human waste and originally, it was buried it in the ground.  Maybe the idea came from watching cats digging a hole and burying their waste.  Most early civilizations were established near rivers, which not only provided a source of fresh water for irrigation, but also a method for waste elimination.  The ironclad rule was to always dump downstream!  Cesspools were designed in areas that not connected to rivers and they would receive and hold sewage for human waste.  They were frequently placed under the floors of castles that were often made of wood.  A cesspool consisted of an underground hole lined with brick or stone and porous material.  Excrement sank to the bottom and liquids flowed out between the spaces in the brick lining.  The waste could not just be flushed away, so when the cesspool got full, somebody needed to empty it and take it to an appropriate dumping site.  During the Middle Ages it was not uncommon for people to urinate or defecate in a chamber pot and just throw it into the streets, or perhaps just forgo the pot and go straight onto the street.  Eventually rains would wash the waste away into a local river, and all is well.  Then came the plague and a whole host of other terrible diseases.  While people of the time had no concept of germ theory, they began to understand that filth bred disease.

In 1183, Frederick I Barbarossa (1122–1190) Holy Roman Emperor and Duke of Swabia held a Diet (legislative assembly) in the Great Hall of Germany’s Erfurt Castle, when suddenly the floor of the main hall collapsed, and the emperor his knights and many of the dinner guests fell thirty-nine feet into the cesspool below and drowned.  The meeting was in the room directly above the latrine and the wooden floor beams gave way, and the group of German nobility along with the flooring and beams crashed down onto the latrine floor.  The screaming nobility plus two levels of flooring and beams descended into the cesspit.  About sixty members of the nobility of the Holy Roman Empire died on that day, drowning in the liquified waste.  Emperor Frederick pulled through as he was able to grab on to the iron grates of a window, where he hung by his hands till he was rescued, but it was a while before any of his guests accepted another dinner invitation at the castle.

In 1326, Richard the Raker, a latrine cleaner, fell through the rotten boards over the pit at Newgate Gaol and drowned in his own excrement.  This pit usually took five days to clear out using a team of 13 men.  Most people didn’t want to deal with the sight and smell, so this was not a very glamorous job, but it paid well.  Cleaning out cesspits needed to be done, but it carried the risk of falling in and very few people were prepared to come to the rescue.  Cesspits or cesspools which existed in London for many centuries weren’t maintenance free, emptying them was grim work, this occupation was clearly one of the least desirable in human history.  People in this profession risked getting disease, but eventually every cesspool needs to be emptied.  This task was for the so called ‘night-soil men’ to do, who worked from 9 pm to 5 am, so the public wouldn’t have to see them.  Once they had gathered their stinky haul, the latrine cleaners would dump the night soil outside the city limits in enormous excrement dumps.  Eventually septic pumping systems replaced the need to hand shovel human waste.

Written for Reena’s Xploration Challenge 258, where she gave us the prompt cesspool.