First I need to clarify what constitutes virginity without getting too deep into the semantics and the technicalities, because I see this as being different for men and women. I don’t think that a man has to stick their penis inside of a vagina in order to lose their virginity, as this can be accomplished by ejaculation for men, be it by a girls hand, a girls vagina or some other body part on a girl, like their mouth. I do not think that a guy having sex with his own hand should qualify as losing their virginity even though this would be sexual stimulation that leads to producing an orgasm and that is what having sex is all about.
I could be all wrong about this, but I feel that if a girl is giving head or touching a guy’s penis, that they can still be a virgin, because losing their virginity for a girl, has to do with first time vaginal penetration, which could be done by a finger or a penis. If their hymen was already broken from riding a bicycle, this first time penetration is what causes them to lose their virginity, and if it is still intact, than the distinction is made much clearer.
A virgin is someone who’s never had sex before, but since sex is complicated, it is not real easy to say who is or who is not a virgin. Sex could mean one thing to a certain person and it could mean something completely different to another person, so virginity can mean many different things, and people may or may not see themselves as being virgins. In today’s world, we have lesbians, bisexuals, gays, transgender people, those individuals who are actually not sure what they are and they are still questioning their sexual identity or they think of themselves as being queer and we also have pansexual people, who are attracted to everything and they are capable of falling in love with all genders. The world is so much more confusing today than it was for me when I was growing up.
I was a bit awkward with girls when I was younger and it was probably because I had pimples and I also had these warts on my fingers, which made me want to hide my hands. Even my brother who was a year younger than I was told me about kissing his girlfriend and getting to feel up her tits and this made me feel even more inept. My story is about getting my first hand job and sadly this did not happen till I was a Junior in High School.
I was shooting hoops in my friends back yard, when he told me that this girl named Jenny was waiting for me in his sister’s bedroom and that she would take care of me. I had seen this girl hanging out with my friend’s sisters, but she looked to be at least four years younger than I was, so I never paid much attention to her. I would never have initiated having sex with this girl, but I was interested in anything that had to do with females, so I went into the bedroom and sat on the bed next to Jenny.
We never spoke one word to each other, as she was on the phone talking to someone else. When I sat next to her she pulled my shorts and under wear down and proceeded to stroke me. I laid back on the bed to give her more room to do her thing and it did not take very long for me to lose my virginity. She pulled my underwear back up and wiped her hand off on them. I smiled at her as I put my shorts back on and then I heard some giggling coming from the closet. I think that Jenny was putting on a show for my friend’s younger sisters to watch through the slats in the closet doors.
Written for Fandango’s Story Time Week Three with the prompt being, ‘Tell the story about what led up to the time you lost your virginity.’