Love should be steady, steadfast, resolute, determined and unwavering, as that is the only way it will keep on blossoming. For some, love is not easy to find, and it is disheartening to see that many people will just throw it away at the drop of a hat. I did that once and now I have been divorced for the past 15 years. It takes effort from both partners in a relationship to make it work out, as love can be fitful and involve intermittent periods, with a succession of starts and stops where love grows and slips away, and these risings and fallings will happen to everyone who is in love long enough. We all have our good days and our bad days as life tends to oscillate like a pendulum, creating choppy waters for us to try and navigate our way through. There are bound to be intervals or gaps in how strong your love is on any given day, as living with another person can be irritating at times making your love more like a discontinuous stream. I don’t know the secret for holding a relationship together, but I think that you should never underestimate the value of the partner that you selected, as it can be difficult to find the right person again.
Written for FOWC with Fandango – Fitful.
Powerful words ❤️
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Thank you Paula and I guess that I am in a melancholy mood today.
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Love is complex and can be very complicated!
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I don’t think that I will ever figure it out.
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It’s definitely a tough one
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You crammed a lot of truth and insight into that post.
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This is ten pounds of shit stuffed into a five-pound bag.
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😎Well, you are good at it!
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Keeping the spark alive in any relationship is not easy; it takes compromise. Your last sentence really brought the whole story home. To that I would like to add a couple of other secrets for a long and happy marriage: keep the lines of communication open and talk things out. Also maintain a sense of humor; your days will be lighter and more fun if you smile instead of being a grump. And last but not least try to avoid saying to your partner “you should have…..”; they’re condescending and accusatory words. These are just a couple of hints that have worked for me – happily married for 50 years.
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Congratulations on your long and happy marriage and thank for sharing your successful tips.
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No marriage is without its ups and downs, and it does take work to keep it together. But for the fortunate ones, it’s worth the effort.
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Yes, congratulations on your happy marriage Fandango.
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Thanks, Jim.
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Very heartfelt words Jim. Do check my post on loyalty too.
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Thanks, Sadje. I appologize for missing all of your posts yesterday, but I guess I needed a break from blogging.
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Yes, I was wondering where you were! I hope you had a good day?
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Here’s the link;
https://lifeafter50forwomen.com/2022/09/12/importance-of-loyalty/
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I just finished reading it, and it was very enjoyable.
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Thank you so much Jim.
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To everything there is a season, and in marriage the seasons can be winter or summer, cold or scorching, but in the end the survivors are the ones who supported each other through the tough times, who stood beside rather than in front or behind, who were staunch in their connection.
In nature, the mating game is a matter of life and death – are humans any different?
Together we survive and create a strong community.
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Thanks for your insight and your wonderful advice, as I now have a whole new way to look at this. I think that I will make a suggestion to Fandango for his provocative question on whether humans are any different from animals.
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Only love can break your heart. I’ve been there once and it was so true.
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Yes, they did a great cover of the Neil Young classic.
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Good post Jim…I did not see this yesterday at all…I didn’t think you posted.
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I missed a couple days of posting and also reading other posts.
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