This can happen in men and women, but it seems to be more common in women. Arousal and stimulation may not be enough to get you to reach a climax and a variety of issues could be holding you back from having an orgasm. When it comes to sex, not every woman is able to tell their partner what they want, because they are too shy, and this could be holding them back from where they want to go. It is difficult for many women to be open and let go even with their husbands. These women have to learn how to express their needs and desires, or they will never be fulfilled. Some women were taught to behave in a certain way and that society demands that they are reserved and shy, so they will have a difficult time building up their sexual confidence, as they are basically uncomfortable with any type of intimacy. Some women have insecurities, and they don’t feel sexy, so they don’t think that they should be having sex, because they are not as visually appealing as other women in magazines, or in movies. Some women are afraid to be more assertive in bed and they only want to make sure that their partner is pleased. Some women have never figured out what turns them on, so they will never enjoy and saver the feelings.
Some women experience sexual guilt after being with a partner who they find out doesn’t really care about them and they were only together to do the deed. They will obsess over why this person didn’t care about them as much as they cared for him, and these experiences leads to them developing negative emotions surrounding sex. Their thoughts about these past sexual encounters will not bring up excitement and anticipation for possible future experiences. These women are dealing with sexual repression, and this often triggers embarrassment or shame, and as a result they will squash their desires. There are a lot of factors that can impede your ability to climax, and since every woman is built differently figuring out just what will work for you is the key to reaching a climax.
Written for FOWC with Fandango – Climax.