Being Alone

Some people get lonely when they are alone and others need some time for themselves.  The Covid-19 crisis made a lot of people feel like they were alone, because of the social distancing guidelines.  Being alone is not necessarily a bad thing, unless you are shipwrecked and stuck all by yourself with out any access to the internet.  Loneliness is a perceived emotion and it is felt differently by everyone.  If you are all alone, you should try to embrace the solitude, instead of becoming depressed and filled with anxiety.  Getting in touch with your inner self is much easier to do when you are alone, because you don’t have any distractions.  Most people don’t really know their true selves, and this is a great time for you to reflect on how your life is going and also do things that make you feel good.  Your thoughts and feelings are important, so you shouldn’t suppress them.  You are the one that is in charge of your thoughts and you are responsible for creating your own personality, so by getting to know who you are and what you stand for in life, should help to give you a strong sense of self-confidence.  Your genes provide a starting point for your personality, but as you age, you become who you are meant to be.

It is said that human touch is essential, but in the absence of physical connection with others gives us an opportunity, you may have to be inventive.  The longest relationship that you are ever going to have, is going to be with yourself and if you can’t get along with yourself, then things will most likely not go any better with others.  If you isolate yourself all day, day after day, you are neglecting your own basic needs for healthy socialization skills, and prolonged loneliness will make you feel absolutely miserable.  You need to start by finding out what makes you happy and then try satisfying those needs.  Nothing is more important in life than finding what makes you happy and life is about the journey, not the destination.  You can actively pursue happiness, or let it come to you, but it usually doesn’t happen that way, however when you do find it, happiness must be acknowledged and savored.  As we grow things change and the stuff that we did love and enjoy will probably also change over time, so we have to learn how to deal with these changes and how to regain our happiness.

Written for Reena’s Xploration Challenge 231 where she asks us to think about “How We Can Be Alone”.