She was not all that she was cracked up to be and she certainly didn’t live up to the reputation that I expected of her, based on what others had told me.  She looked great and it would have been nice to get a hug or a kiss, instead of a handshake, so I was kind of putting my hand out, while at the same time keeping my arms open for the hug as I waited for her to approach me on our first date.  I realized right away that this was a mistake, as she kept checking her cell phone under the table, which made me feel like she didn’t want to be here with me.  What goes on inside the mind of a woman has always been a mystery to me.  If she wasn’t interested in dating, she could have said so, before we reached this awkward point.

I tried to be confident, being the manly man that I am, one who knows what he wants and isn’t afraid to go for it, but her condescending attitude was making me feel desperate, and needy, like a man who can’t take a hint.  When I go on a date with a new person, I try to keep my hopes up, so I can enjoy spending time with them and possibly getting the chance to know them.  I could sense right off that she had zero interest in being with me and that she was not just playing hard to get.  I told her that dating is confusing enough without having to play these stupid games, so I said that we should be real with each other.  I get it that women are the ones being pursued, and therefore they have to figure out a way to let the guy down easy.  I told her that we didn’t seem to click, and that things would never work out for us, because I had never been ghosting by someone while I was still on a date with them.

Written for Stine Writing – Poetry, Positivity, and Connecting!, Simply 6 Minutes hosted by Christine Bialczak.

14 thoughts on “Disappointing

  1. She was very rude to you. You were wise being upfront. Phones distance not only people on dates, but friendships too. I rarely have lunch or dinner with friends anymore because they’re chained to their phones.

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