A little preparation goes a long way, but there is no need to overthink this. Fresh breath would be greatly appreciated and please don’t lick my entire face like you are a golden retriever, as I don’t want to be slobbered on. There is no perfect way to kiss somebody, but it must be natural and done in the moment, while you are giving me your full attention. If you are going to introduce your tongue into my mouth, do it slowly, as it will probably take me a while to adjust to your saliva, before we start swapping spit like crazed teens, or playing tonsil hockey. If you are thinking about biting me, or doing some gentle nibbling on my bottom lip, please try and warn me before you do that. I would be OK with you leaving a lingering trail of kisses on my neck, but I am going to think that it is weird if you start to shove your tongue in my ear and give me a wet Willy. I understand that ears can be important erogenous zones, but you should start off by nibbling on my earlobes, before you move on to licking them.
If this is our first kiss, start slow, be gentle and use light pressure. Keep it simple and try to kiss back the same way that your partner is kissing you. A kiss is meant to be shared, so don’t try to dominate someone into submission. A kiss can be really sexy if it is kept brief, as that may make your partner beg for more. Take a breath in between kisses till you discover what feels good for both of you and if you are not sure, then ask. Once you find out what triggers the best response, then keep doing it, but try not to get overheated. Humans get distracted by visual stimuli, so we usually close our eyes when we kiss and this helps us to enjoy it more, but this doesn’t mean that you can stop concentrating on what your partner likes or doesn’t like. If you open your eyes during a kiss and notice that your partner also has their eyes open, that is called the sea kiss. There is nothing to worry about, as this leaves open the potential for an even more intimate experience. How you kiss, where or what you kiss, and whether your eyes are open or closed is all about what feels best for you and your partner, so this is your choice and nobody else’s business.
Written for Paula’s Paint Chip Friday challenge #8 where today we are supposed to derive inspiration from Valspar’s “sea kiss” and/or “ghost ship”.