When it comes to magnets, the opposite poles attract, but people are much more complicated than magnets are. I think that it all boils down to timing and being ready to take a leap of faith and share your life with somebody else. When a person is ready to be attracted to another, they will fall for the one that they feel is the best for them, whether that person is more like them, or more different from them. People look for others that are the same religion, or have the same political interests, or have the same hobbies, or that like the same foods. I made up my mind to marry my wife when I found out that she didn’t like onions and we got along very well for 25 years.
Differences are also good, as these can be used to complement one another, making the whole greater than the sum of its parts. I think that you are more likely to find someone attractive if you can agree with their opinions. Consider the Covid vaccine, if you are vaccinated, you probably wouldn’t date someone who refuses to get the shot. Opposites attract mostly in fantasies, but in real life, it is the things that people have in common with one another that allows them to stay together. Is she likes watching HGTV and you enjoy Westerns, that is why households have more than one TV set, but if she likes Trump and you refuse to swallow the Big Lie, then there is no hope for you staying together as a couple?
Written for Fandango’s Provocative Question #128 which asks, “Do you feel that people are more attracted to one another by their differences or by their commonalities? And why do you feel that way?”