I am not referring to a lot of snow coming down in my area, or a nasty breakup, as this is more about the people who want to tell me their problems, or others figuring that I should be responsible for resolving something. This gets frustrating as I am not walking around with a big sign that says, “Tell me how I can help you”, as if I am working as a Walmart greeter. I have my own problems and maybe I am acting selfish, but I don’t want to hear about other people’s problems. If I was on a plane and the pilot turned on the emergency system to drop oxygen masks and I saw that the person sitting next to me needed help with that, I would offer them assistance even before I put my own oxygen mask on. If I went on a cruise and the ship was sinking, I would help others to get into the life boat, before I attempted to get in, so it is not like I lack compassion. I try to avoid talking about my problems and I feel that other people should learn how to do that.
Don’t look at me to fix your lives, or resolve your problems and stop dumping on me. I am not your therapist and everything is entirely within your control. Don’t underestimate your own abilities and remember that God helps those who help themselves. Stop thinking of me as being your refuge from the storm, or your shade from the heat, as the only way things will ever get done, is if you are willing to put in the work.
Written for Sadje at Keep It Alive What Do You See #91.