This is my realm, as I enjoy direct messaging a stranger or acquaintance, by using a social networking platform. My intention is to garner a response and I could be reaching out for a romantic connection, a friendship, or just as a way to connect with someone, but not to be creepy. I’m no stranger to the DM slide and I have had some success using it, but I have also had a few failures. Since many people choose to share their Instagram handles on their dating app profiles, a simple search and some creativity on your end, can land you in their inbox.
I always avoid mentioning where I found them and no one has ever asked. Instead, I just use my opening line and place it in the posts on their Instagram. I never ask them a question that puts pressure on them to respond, as I like to keep it easy as opposed to demanding. If they are interested, they will respond and keep the interaction going. This is the line that I normally use and it has opened up a lot of doors for me. “Hello, how are you doing? My name is Jim and I find dating messages to be awkward, but if I don’t break the ice and contact anyone, then I won’t meet anyone. It is hard to come up with something worthwhile to say when you don’t know a person yet. Hit me back if you find me to be interesting.” If they don’t write back, I didn’t waste that much time and I can DM direct message somebody else, so nothing ventured, nothing gained, but if my slide works out, then I have gained access to a new realm. What starts out as a DM slide, has the possibility to turn into a really fun weekend fling.
Written for FOWC with Fandango – Realm.