Looking Back

I never realized how important it is to have offspring and if I could do it all over again, I would have had some children.  When I was younger, I didn’t really want to have children, as I felt that they would just complicate my life.  My wife worked and she was on the pill, so we didn’t discuss having any children, till her biological clock started ticking louder, which was a byproduct of her egg production running low.  Now the race was on and she did get pregnant, but unbeknownst to us, she had a blockage in her uterary channel, which caused her to have several early term miscarriages.  She had an operation to remove the blockage, but she was never able to get pregnant after that and then we spent thousands on fertility treatments to no avail.

We gave up and realized that we were too old, but she really wanted to have a baby and she cried all the time about our misfortune.  I would have gone either way on the issue, as I enjoyed playing with my nephews, but I was always glad to get back to my home where it was more peaceful.  You can’t change the past and you have to stay on the path that you have taken.

Written for Fandango’s Provocative Question #122 which is, “What is your biggest regret in life?”

16 thoughts on “Looking Back

  1. I’ve no children Jim, though not by choice, it just wasn’t meant to be. Sometimes I wonder, but I had my fostering days which were good for me, and a smattering of nieces and nephews of various generations (I am a great, great aunty to a seven year old), though the way some of those have turned out make me shudder.

    Liked by 1 person

    1. It is easy to see how things could have turned out differently in your life, but stuff can always get worse, so it is probably best not to alter the path you are on.

      Like

  2. I definitely feel you. I am in my mid-thirties, so could technically still have children, but I’ve made the choice not to try. After all, I can barely take care of myself, let alone a family. It was a difficult choice and though right now I don’t regret not having children, I might in the future.

    Liked by 1 person

  3. We almost didn’t have our one child. Jennifer had a tubal pregnancy and was pregnant with Bailey at the same time…he was in the right place. We didn’t know that at the time….she was 2-3 months pregnant…only that she was hurting and the doctor said it was normal and “in her head”…we took off to Florida for vacation and as we were going through Nashville her lips started to turn blue…I got her to Baptist Hospital and they gave Bailey a 50/50 chance and Jen was in a lot of danger…they found the problem and got rid of the tubal…she had to take shots every day of her pregnancy after that but both turned out great and he was born normal 6 or so months later.

    Liked by 1 person

      1. Thank you so much. It was touch and go that night. The Hospital said that didn’t happen much at all.

        Like

  4. I can’t imagine a bunch of little Jims running around. I am a father and a grandfather and I derive a lot of pleasure from them, especially now that my kids are older and on their own. It was challenging when they were younger, though.

    Liked by 1 person

      1. Yes. I have five sons. The fourth one texted me late at night, recently, asking what time he was born. (I’m guessing he was out with someone who does astrological stuff in a little more detail than most people who have interest in that.) I had to think for a minute, but I remembered it was nine in the morning. (This particular data might not be be a lot to remember for everybody.) I was on our futon with a pink cover, when he was born, and I was looking out the window at the beautiful snow. I also hoped for snow on his first birthday and got it. He told me, out at dinner tonight, that his current girlfriend (who I hadn’t known about before and he’s been seeing for a few weeks) is a vegetarian.

        Liked by 1 person

Comments are closed.