If we could control the wind patterns, then we could have all the rain that is dumped on us delivered to the places where the fires are burning, but we are at the mercy of mother nature. I can control what I watch on TV, but if my cable goes out, or my power is down, or my internet connection is lost, then I must find some other way to occupy myself. You can have some control over your career, but if you are not independently rich, you may have to swallow your pride and perform certain undesirable tasks, or work with people that you don’t like. It is great when things just happen without us having to control them, like going to sleep and having a dream, as without spontaneity, we might as well be robots. Nobody wants to be in control of every breath that they take, or having to direct our hearts to pump blood, or telling our hair and nails how much they should grow, as these things must occur automatically, otherwise our brains would be all scrambled with extraneous flotsam and jetsam taking over our whole lives.
Some people have arraigned marriages and many of them work out fine, but even though you can pick your seat and pick your nose, you can’t choose your relatives. You get stuck with a lot of things in life and it is up to you to determine how you are going to deal with that. Many of the mundane things that I do, I have control over, like if I decide to brush my teeth or take a shower, but many other things in life are out of my control, even the writing that I do is mostly controlled by prompts. Just because somebody puts out a prompt, that does not force ne to write about that topic, as I have control on what interests me. When I decide to write about something, I have already taken the plunge and I am along for the ride wherever it takes me.
Keith Richards and Mick Jagger wrote a song titled ‘You Can’t Always Get What You Want’ which is about the control that someone has in their life and their solution is that a person can get what they need out of their life. Joni Mitchel summed this up pretty well with her song ‘Both Sides Now’ saying, “I’ve looked at life from both sides now – From win and lose and still somehow – It’s life’s illusions I recall – I really don’t know life at all”.
Written for FOWC with Fandango – Extraneous and for Fandango’s Provocative Question #88 which asks, “To what degree have you been able to control the course that your life has taken? Or is being in control of your life just an illusion?”
I have always felt that I could control MY life by controlling my responses to things that I can’t control. But I feel lately like I’ve lost my ability to control even my own reactions, as I’m feeling angry, frustrated, disappointed, and even depressed about those things over which I have no control.
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I wrote this before I saw your FOWC prompt of extraneous, but I have added it in now.
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I really liked this post Jim. We think we’re in control of our lived but as you say, we are really not if we take the time to look at it closely. Right now I am feeling quite helpless considering the election is looming 😦
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We are all looking doom squarely in the face right now.
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Seems that way today, doesn’t it 😕
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Thoughtful answer Jim! To carry the ‘pick’ thought a step further (which is unnecessary, but sometimes one must do certain things)..
You can pick your seat
You can pick your nose
BUT
You cannot pick your relatives or friends
and certainly you can’t pick your friend’s nose… (bwahahah)…
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Actually I suppose you CAN pick your friends…. Uh, ooops.
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Thanks for the laugh Melanie.
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I guess you can’t, and that is something that I never want to try.
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Ooo, I don’t know about that!
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I feel different ways on different days, but right now a lot of the things that I never worried about, seem to be spiraling out of control.
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Good post!
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Thanks Paula.
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Another great song about control and our lack of it.
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Yes mother nature always takes control.
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I think we are all feeling a little less in control recently. Such times make me understand survivalists a little better!
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Yes we could all learn a lesson or two from them.
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I’ve never seen that video before…that is interesting…those 3 together. Three different type of artists completely.
On one of the Cavett shows he had Janis Joplin, Raquel Welch, and Gloria Swanson on at the same time….that was interesting.
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Mama Cass had her own show for a while and Mary Travers was very popular with Peter, Paul and Mary, but I actually think that Joni Mitchell fits in real well with both of them although she was the lesser known at that time. There are some great Janis videos on this site.
https://paola1chi.blogspot.com/2019/10/janis-joplin-and-dick-cavett-show.html
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Perhaps this is what we need?
They said release ‘Remote Control’
But we didn’t want it on the label
They said, “Fly to Amsterdam”
The people laughed but the press went mad
Ooh ooh ooh someone’s really smart
Ooh ooh ooh complete control, that’s a laugh
On the last tour my mates couldn’t get in
I’d open up the back door but they’d get run out again
At every hotel we was met by the Law
Come for the party – come to make sure!
Ooh ooh ooh have we done something wrong?
Ooh ooh ooh complete control, even over this song
They said we’d be artistically free
When we signed that bit of paper
They meant let’s make a lotsa mon-ee
An’ worry about it later
Ooh ooh ooh I’ll never understand
Ooh ooh ooh complete control – lemme see your other hand!
All over the news spread fast
They’re dirty, they’re filthy
They ain’t gonna last!
This is Joe Public speaking
I’m controlled in the body, controlled in the mind
Total
See-o-n control – that means you!
Source: LyricFind
Songwriters: Joe Strummer / Mick Jones / Paul Simonon / Topper Headon
Complete Control lyrics © Universal Music Publishing Group
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A very fitting song.
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