Having sex with another person may be the most intimate and beautiful way to express your love, but engaging in this act, does not proof that there is love. Real intimacy involves having a partner that allows you to see exactly who they are. Only trust can bring you closer to another person, and as the poet and writer Ranata Suzuki said, “True intimacy is a state in which nothing exists between two people; no space, no inhibitions and no lies.” When you have no inhibitions around another person, there is nothing that you can do or say that will be embarrassing to you and you will be confident enough to relax and do or say whatever you desire, while you are in their presence. Some people have a fear of being nude in front of others or accidentally passing gas in front of another person as this can be embarrassing if not devastating for them, but people who share intimacy can work through these obstacles.
Once you feel secure enough to become intimate with another person, you will be close enough to share your ideas, because you will sense what the other person is feeling. This should allow you to spend more quality time free from distractions. Be kind, respectful, loving, and compassionate towards your partner and allow you to explore new things and activities that you can do together, which should lead to an even more fulfilling and satisfying relationship. Sex is not the only way where people can give and receive love, as couples can be intimate with each other without engaging in sexual activities. There is a difference between intimacy and passion, as intimacy involves feelings of closeness, being connected in a special way, and the shared bond that comes from a loving relationship, while passion refers to the drives that lead to romance, physical attraction, sexual consummation, and related phenomena in loving relationships.
Intimacy is about making a connection with another person that allows you to communicate with each other. You will share a personal space with them, and you may hold each other’s hands, or hug, or kiss, or caress, or fondle, or even have sexual intercourse, and this emotional sensual touching is meant to decrease feelings of loneliness and sadness and increase your desire to remain together. As two people become closer to one another they are at ease in each other’s company and free to display their affections for each other, which might include, intimate touching, cuddling together, caressing each other, tickling or giving each other a massage. Intimacy may often lead to sex, but it is possible to have one without the other, however sharing a close intimacy with multiple people is probably going to be too difficult to pull off, as one person is bound to become jealous of the other.
Written for Mindlovemisery’s Menagerie Sunday Writing Prompt “Intimacy” hosted by Yves.