She Wants Him

The female brain is a complete mystery to most men, as women’s thoughts and desires are often impossible to interpret, but a lot can be learned from eye contact.  This song by the Police ‘Don’t Stand So Close To Me’ is not about the lust of a man for a child, it is about the tension that springs up from the desire of something that just can’t happen.  The female student feels that love is in the air, because her male teacher has shown her some attention.  She is probably a smart student, one that pays attention in class, does her assignments and raises her hand to participate in class discussions, but it is very likely that she is not the only girl at the school that fancies him.  The teacher should not be blamed for being young and handsome, but in school people talk and rumors spread quickly and when he takes this young student on as his protégé [teacher’s pet] that makes the other girls jealous.  The student and the teacher probably work together after class hours, and she might help out grading papers for him.

She is willing to do anything that will let her spend more time with him and while they are together, she smiles at him and probably fixes up her hair, looking for any opportunity to put her hands on him, touching his arm, or whatever.  She wants to look beautiful for him to win and keep his attention, so she really does not have any boundaries that she won’t cross and as her desire increases, she may start licking or rubbing her lips.  This girl is definitely jailbait, above the age of puberty, but still half his age and far from being legal, although she has this worldliness, sophistication that makes her appear much older.

After my engineering career was over, companies wanted to hire younger workers that they could pay less money, I worked as a Substitute Teacher for a few years.  The job was easy when I got good students and I did get to attend a two hour training class to prepare me for this new career.  One thing that I learned was to never allow myself to be alone in the classroom with just one student.  This rule does not apply to regular teachers, but it is smart advice for anyone to follow so they can avoid any accusations about improper conduct.  This song is being told (narrated) from the perspective of someone who is able to watch both the student and the teacher and it says, “Temptation, frustration So bad it makes him cry Wet bus stop, she’s waiting His car is warm and dry”.  This segment of the song tells us that the teacher is tempted and frustrated to the point where he actually breaks down to cry.  It lets us know that the student is probably not old enough to drive yet, as she is waiting in the rain for the bus to come.  He thinks about offering her a ride in his car and maybe that is as far as it goes, or maybe it goes much further, we will never know.

“Loose talk in the classroom To hurt they try and try Strong words in the staffroom The accusations fly”, so it is not only the students that are talking, the rumors are being spread among the other teachers now.  The teacher is clearly attracted to his student, even though she is so young.  “It’s no use, he sees her He starts to shake and cough Just like the old man in That book by Nabokov”.  This segment may give us more details if we analyze it properly.  It is reasonable to assume that this time when he sees her, they are not in the classroom and the mere sight of her is really affecting him.  You might also speculate that he could be an English teacher or a Language Arts teacher, or at least the narrator, the person who is observing both the student and the teacher is well read, as it mentions that book by Nabokov.  This is an allusion to the Russian novelist Vladimir Vladimirovich Nabokov who wrote the book Lolita, which is a tale of inappropriate love and passion by a lecherous man who periodically molests and rapes his 12 year old stepdaughter.  Like the character in this story, the teacher is torn by his feelings for the underage girl, knowing his desires are perverted, but he still wants to enjoy being with her.  He can’t give in to his desires, he must show restraint because of social politics, and he wishes that she would stop getting so close to him, as there is a good chance that he could end up losing his job because of this.

The Police had three songs that reached #1 on the charts, those being ‘King Of Pain’, ‘Every Little Thing She Does Is Magic’ and ‘Every Breath You Take’.  ‘Spirits In The Material World’ peaked at #7, ‘Synchronicity II’ and ‘Wrapped Around Your Finger’ both reached #9 on the charts.  The Police released ‘Don’t Stand So Close To Me’ twice, the first time in 1981 when it peaked at #11 and the 1986 single reached #10.  ‘Every Breath You Take’ was listed as #83 on the Rolling Stone‘s “500 Greatest Songs of All Time” and ‘Roxanne’ came in at #398.  Gordon Matthew Thomas Sumner who is better known as Sting wrote the song ‘Don’t Stand So Close To Me’.  Before Sting became a rock star, he worked as an English teacher and soccer coach.  Sting taught for two years at St. Paul’s in Cramlington, England and he has called his job as “One of the most important jobs in the planet.”  He knows that teaching is an important job and teaching children is essential.  He thinks that the entire future depends on kids being educated.

Young teacher, the subject
Of schoolgirl fantasy
She wants him so badly
Knows what she wants to be

Inside her there’s longing
This girl’s an open page
Book marking, she’s so close now
This girl is half his age

Don’t stand, don’t stand so
Don’t stand so close to me
Don’t stand, don’t stand so
Don’t stand so close to me

Her friends are so jealous
You know how bad girls get
Sometimes it’s not so easy
To be the teacher’s pet

Temptation, frustration
So bad it makes him cry
Wet bus stop, she’s waiting
His car is warm and dry

Don’t stand, don’t stand so
Don’t stand so close to me
Don’t stand, don’t stand so
Don’t stand so close to me

Loose talk in the classroom
To hurt they try and try
Strong words in the staffroom
The accusations fly

It’s no use, he sees her
He starts to shake and cough
Just like the old man in
That book by Nabokov

Don’t stand, don’t stand so
Don’t stand so close to me
Don’t stand, don’t stand so
Don’t stand so close to me

Don’t stand, don’t stand so
Don’t stand so close to me
Don’t stand, don’t stand so
Don’t stand so close to me
Don’t stand, don’t stand so
Don’t stand so close to me
Don’t stand, don’t stand so
Don’t stand so close to me
Don’t stand, don’t stand so
Don’t stand so close to me
Don’t stand, don’t stand so
Don’t stand so close to me

Written for 3/3/19 Song Lyric Sunday where the prompt is “Occupation”.

26 thoughts on “She Wants Him

  1. Very in-depth analysis there. My ex-husband (a brilliant guy before he lost his mind) also said that it was smart to avoid being alone as you describe. The Lolita ref is creepy from the songwriter because (1) the character in the book acted on his feelings; and (2) Lolita was 12 not 16 as portrayed in the movie. So, that’s ICKY. But probably the writer just wanted to sound smart. Lol

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    1. Was your ex a teacher? I did not read Lolita, but from what I read about the book this 12 year old girl seemed to enjoy having sex more than her step father did. The whole thing is icky, but different strokes for different folks.

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  2. If I had Sting as a teacher in school, I might not have dropped out… Seriously, teachers “cave” to these crushes disturbingly often, and it’s not just the male teachers. If they find it hard to resist, better to find a new line of work. Once they cave, their professional lives are over, so why take a chance? I’ve heard horror stories about teachers crossing the line, having kids over to their houses, giving them weed, etc.

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  3. There are good and bad in every profession and there are a lot more good teachers than there are bad ones. I can see how situations like this could happen as sex can tempt anyone I guess. I never had any students come on to me, but I started my substitute teaching career late in life and I am sure that if I was younger that I would have found this to be tempting.

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  4. The Police had some provocative songs, didn’t they? This one and Every Breath You Take… makes me wonder what these guys were really up to in their spare time. At least we know that Sting has turned out to be a fairly decent human.

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  5. “One of the most important jobs in the planet.”… teaching really is… Most of my son’s teachers are good and go out of their way to make things understandable.

    I’ve always liked that Police song. I’m not a fan of everything they did but I like this one.

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    1. There are a lot of bad students these days and I am sure that your son is not one of them, but people have children when they are not ready for them and they end up getting neglected and maybe that is why they turn bad. I saw some of the worst students when I worked as a Substitute Teacher and that is why I quit, but when I got good students the job was a pleasure.

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      1. Parents who use the school system as a day care and babysitter. I’ve met a few of them.

        Overall our local school system is pretty good. We live in a small town where everyone knows everyone…its funny though…he was an average student in a strict Jr High and then in high school his grades took off to honor roll levels. I asked him why and he told me they gave him some freedom and it helped.

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