To Placate Or Not To Placate

Is it better to placate and sooth over a conflict rather than keep on living in anguish.  If you are OK with giving in and loosing, then so be it.  There are two sides to every coin, but some things do matter, so placating is not always the answer.  Anger Management involves placating and anger itself has been around since the beginning of history.  Cain was angry about God accepting his brother Able’s sacrifice and rejecting his, so he committed the first murder and things might have worked out different if Cain was less agitated.

Anger is a natural reaction to pain or being injured.  Feelings of anger arise differently in every person and they depend on how we interpret and react to certain situations.  Everyone has their own triggers for what makes them angry.  People get angry for many reasons, like if they get let down or if they get frustrated or feel powerless, if they have been wronged or betrayed, or if they believe that they have been insulted or treated unjustly or unfairly.  Some people will get angry if something does not meet their expectations.  It is common for people to get mad when they feel embarrassed, or when they don’t feel like they are being listened to or understood, or when they feel threatened or get attacked.  A leading cause of anger is often related to a person’s environment.  Stress, financial issues, abuse, poor social or familial situations, and overwhelming requirements on your time and energy can all contribute to the formation of anger.

Anger is one of the most common emotions in daily life, but some people will get angry over the smallest things and then blow everything out of proportion.  Over time intense pressure of suppressed emotions can build up until it eventually has to get vented in some way or another.  Anger triggers will produce outbursts and only by being able to identify the cause of these triggers will you be able to become aware of your problem and see your own individual pattern, so you can try to change your behavior.  Seneca, a Roman Stoic philosopher, statesman and dramatist compiled a list of the kinds of evil that derive from anger, and it’s not a pretty picture at all.  He said, “No plague has cost the human race more dear, you will see slaughtering and poisonings, accusations and counter-accusations, sacking of cities, ruin of whole peoples, the persons of princes sold into slavery by auction, torches applied to roofs, and fires not merely confined within city-walls but making whole tracts of country glow with hostile flame.”

Written for Fandango’s FOWC with the prompt “placate”.

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