In 1960, when I was seven years old and in the hospital after getting stitches, a female nurse (I don’t think that there was such a thing as male nurses in these days) gave me a beaker and told me to go pee in it. I was standing at the edge of the room and the nurse was right in front of the door that lead to the hallway. I asked her if I could go to the bathroom and do it, but she just said that I had to pee so she could go home at the end of her shift and that I had to do it right now. She was persistent and she told me to drop my pants and pull down my underwear to my knees and she gave me this look that said I better hurry up and urinate. I felt awkward, humiliated and embarrassed having her give me a command that I had to obey, but I did what she told me to do. I had never made pee before with somebody watching me and I told her that it was difficult for me to pee because she was watching me, plus people were walking in the hall going right past the room.
The nurse said that I did not have anything that she had not seen hundreds of times before. She told me that I could turn around, so she would not be looking at me if that helped. I did not care how many people she had seen naked, my only concern was that she not see me naked. I turned around to face away from her and I tried to make pee, but I couldn’t do it. I really tried, but nothing came out. The nurse yelled at me saying, “You are going to pee and you are going to do it now. I don’t want to have to put a catheter in you, so just relax and breathe slowly and if you need to, then tap your fingers on the sides of the container, which should help you to concentrate on what needs to happen. Don’t try to force it, just let your pee push itself out of your bladder.” I had no clue what a catheter was, but the word did not sound very nice when she said it. I was just a kid and I did not even think that this might be an invasion of my privacy, as she was an adult and kids were supposed to do what adults told them to do. Anyway back in these days everything was so much different.
This went on for at least five minutes, but eventually I was able to get the stream going and even though I had my back to the nurse, I knew that she could hear everything. She yelled at me to make sure that I was aiming into the container and that I did not splash anything. When I was done she grabbed the container out of my hand and she did not even wait for me to pull my pants back up. I was sure that she peaked at me and this made me start blushing. I could not understand why she was in such a hurry, I felt like she was trying to humiliate me. This episode in my life was traumatic for me, as getting the stitches was bad enough, but then having to make pee for this nurse made me feel shame like I lost my dignity. For me, this was a big deal having someone see my privates, I did not like being undressed in front of a stranger and also because no one had ever demanded that I make pee while they were watching me before.
As I got older, I started to understand that going to see a doctor might require me to remove some or all of my clothing. I was still not real comfortable being undressed in front of anyone, but I did accept it as a necessary inconvenience. I guess I was a teen ager, before my modesty disappeared and I was more willing to disrobe and accommodate the doctors and nurses.
Written for Linda G Hill Life in progress January 11, 2018 #JusJoJan Daily Prompt is Humiliate by A Unique Title For Me, hey wait that is me.
I can’t really say “like” but, you know how the ‘stats’ work here. Anyway…Thank you for sharing that experience, it’s a reminder that how we feel is not indicative of how someone else feels or how they SHOULD feel.
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Thanks BuzzCut.
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Doctors and Nurses.. Did you date anyone who was either of the two?
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Yes I did date a nurse and I chat with this girl on the internet who is a cardiac surgeon.
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That’s pretty harsh, especially for a child. Visiting from #JusJoJan. Thanks for the prompt today.
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You are welcome and this is such a fun challenge.
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That was an awful experience to go through, and that nurse seemed very insensitive and uncaring. She could have at least stepped out for a second, and closed the door!
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I agree, thanks for reading my story.
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Jeez, that’s some memory. So sorry.
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Yea, it was a long time ago.
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I know that embarrassment Jim. Thankfully they ask me to go to the toilet to give them a sample. But I’ve known people who have had to pee on demand….I find it hard enough in a public toilet as it is. Great word to write on BTW.
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Thanks Michael and I am also not a pee on demand type of person.
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I like it even better when they say take it home and bring it back tomorrow…
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That would work for me.
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Hi there! I’m visiting from Linda’s JusJoJan. I truly admire your courageous share, so I’m clicking “like” button solely for that reason. What a deep prompt. Bringing lots to mind. Happy to find a new blog to peek in on in the ‘sphere. Best wishes!
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I am an open book and I am happy to have you read any of my posts.
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I remember going through something similar. I was so stubborn, I ended up with the catheter. Never had a problem peeing in a bottle since. 😛
Thanks so much for the prompt, Jim! 😀
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I don’t know about women, but I heard that for men the catheter is very painful when it is being removed.
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From what I remember as a child, it was simply painful. To-be-avoided-at-all-costs painful.
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That was an awful experience. Good prompt thought. Thanks
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Part two of this story is coming today.
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Hey Jim,
WOW what a hell of a story dude!
I wrote a little on this theme today/tonight! Did you got the ping? It’s here if you wanna look? https://a1000mistakes.wordpress.com/2018/01/12/just-jot-it-january-humiliate-tarred-feathered/
I’ll say sorry now it’s a bit random now but hope you enjoy it or something?
Cheers!
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I hit the LIKE button on your post, but I have disdain for tar and feathering.
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Cheers man, I know it’s far from a nice thing on earth but It’s what I did think about when I saw the word humiliate. It’s not like your going to get buckets full of kittens and puppys on your doorstep with picking a word like that but did you enjoy any of the songs? maybe!
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Humiliate is not a good thing and it can involve torture I guess. I just feel that there should be some type of distinction between humiliation and inflicting severe pain on someone as a punishment.
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Fair call, I was drunk last night. Sorry dude! but did you enjoy any of the songs?
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When I was young, a long time ago I remember watching a movie about a runaway slave who was captured and then tarred and feathered. They used hot tar which melted his skin and he suffered an excruciatingly painful death which left a bad taste in my mouth, so I did not watch your video songs. I was not being fair to you by avoiding your post and I just read that tarring and feathering is a form of public torture and humiliation used to enforce unofficial justice or revenge, so your post was very appropriate for the prompt humiliate. Your pingback was supposed to go to Linda Hill’s post, not to mine and I would suggest that you do not need my approval for anything that you write. I write for my own enjoyment and being drunk should not be an excuse for anything. I am sure that many good writers have written some of their best work while they were drinking.
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Sorry once again man, I will not bother you again
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You are not bothering me and actually I am sorry for not being more receptive to your tar and feathering post.
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