God did not make a law against fornication, where two people who are not married to each other engage in sexual intercourse, however many churches teach that fornication involves sexual immorality stating that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit and that any sex outside the marriage will not glorify God. The position taken by the church is that sex is a sin unless you are married and only a husband can have sex with his wife without sinning. If everyone were to abstain from sex until after they were married, than there would be far fewer sexually transmitted diseases around, less abortions, not as many unwanted pregnancies and absolutely no unwed mothers. Most of the children would grow up having both of their parents in their lives. Abstinence would saves lives and protect babies, however it would ruin all the fun, because single people have sexual desires and they should be able to satisfy them without making a lifelong commitment.
Whose body am I inside of? Does my body belong to the Holy Spirit or does it belong to me? If it is my body, than I should be able to make my own decisions concerning my own actions, but if my body belongs to the Holy Spirit, than He should determine what is best for me. If it is not my body, than why did I get horney and think about having pre-marital sex? Is it possible that some of the Scriptures concerning sexual purity that clearly condemn sex before marriage are outdated and archaic? Why would God create us with desires that we are not able to control? Is sex merely a physical act, or is it supposed to be a spiritual encounter?
Where is the line drawn, is kissing a sin, would holding hands be a sin? Jesus said, ‘But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart. If your right eye causes you to sin, pluck it out and cast it from you, and if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and cast it from you, for it is more profitable for you that one of your members perish, than for your whole body to be cast into hell.’ Will blind people be the only ones that end up in heaven?
Is lust a misplaced or overly robust libido which causes a person to want something more than they should, up to the point where it has become unhealthy? Did Jesus turn the sexual morality dial up a few extra notches with His statement that He made at the Sermon on the Mount, or did He set the bar so high that it would be impossible for anyway to follow? Did Jesus intend to give laws that only priests would be able to follow? Lust, desire, temptation and sin are all related by interpreters of the Bible and these four words have formed a vicious circle that makes them inseparable. Plato thought that the human soul was divided into higher parts and lower parts and these lower parts held a person’s appetite, their source of drive for pleasure, including desires for food, drink and sexual pleasure. Socrates felt that this part of the soul was non-rational, and it was not driven only by desires, but also by necessity, which made humans act frivolous, or do things that were unlawful, illegal and even sinful. When a person is hungry enough or thirsty enough, their desires will overwhelm them and they will do whatever is necessary to satisfy their needs.
Is it possible that since the Bible was translated into many different languages that some of its original meanings were changed? Perhaps Jesus did not suggest that any sexual thought or inclination of desire towards a woman was a sin, maybe this could be viewed as sexual thoughts or attractions that are triggered by looking at a woman are what is sinful. Looking should not be a problem and especially not a sin, as my grandfather stated, ‘When I am too old to look than I am too old to live.’ When a man sees a beautiful woman, he should not be blamed for looking at her. Having sexual desire isn’t a problem, but purposely looking at a woman to seek out sexual desire is. Mathew described these words of Jesus and I think what he wanted everyone to understand is that having any extramarital sex was wrong, but the moment that any person decided to travel down that slippery slope towards committing adultery, that this person already had sin in their heart.
The Old Testament did not mess around, as things were defined and penalties were stipulated such as stating that, ‘If a man is found sleeping with another man’s wife, both the man who slept with her and the woman must die.’ Some things are a bit muddy as the Bible prohibits a man from taking another man’s wife, but there is no indication of whether or not this man is also married. A conundrum, can a single guy have sex with a married woman without it being a sin? Most people think it is clear that when any married person willingly seeks a sexual liaison with another person, whether or not that person is also married, both people are guilty of committing adultery.
The Ten Commandments tells us that there are things that we should avoid doing. One day Jesus told a man that he should keep the commandments and the man replied, ‘Which ones?’ Jesus responded, ‘Do not commit adultery, Do not murder, Do not steal, Do not covet.’ Mathew asked Jesus, ‘Teacher, what is the most important commandment in the Law?’ Jesus said unto him, ‘Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind. This is the first and great commandment. And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself. On these two commandments hang all the law and the prophets.’